Kill them with Kindness!

I've been reflecting lately on the wisdom passed on to me by my father.

He used to talk to me about how he managed people and the mistakes people make in their response to challenging circumstances or individuals.

We don't hear the expression 'Kill them with Kindness' much these days, do we?

I suspect that's often because people would rather approach a situation with 'all guns blazing'.

Next time you're dealing with a difficult situation, try changing your default response and doing the opposite of what you feel. 

Go ahead. The outcome will totally surprise you. Why not make it one of those Healthy Habits we talked about?

The expression "Kill them with Kindness" means to respond to rudeness, hostility, or negativity with kindness and generosity, instead of reacting with anger or hostility (as the person exacerbating the conflict may wish). 

Responding in a positive and kind manner can be more effective in dealing with difficult situations or people, as ...

Habit Forming - the Good the Bad and the Ugly!

I ended my last blog by saying

If you change your thinking, you change your life.

Well equally, it can be said

If you change your habits, you change your life.

I cannot stress enough how important this is ...

and how, if you can master this, you put yourself up there with the great achievers.

It's that simple! You know this, right?

So what's the secret? Well according to Mell Robbins in her book The Five Second Rule (one of my favourite reads by the way) ...

‘Throughout your life, you've had parents, coaches, teachers, friends and mentors who have pushed you to be better than your excuses and bigger than your fears. What if the secret to having the confidence and courage to enrich your life and work is simply knowing "how" to push yourself?’

Using the science of habits [...] Mel Robbins will explain the power of a push moment.

The secret isn't knowing what to do, it's knowing how to make yourself do it.

In fact this was the sub...

Stream of Consciousness

I took my shadow to the 

Stream of Consciousness 

I said to my shadow

'what will become of me?'

'You can be the person you want to be',

said the shadow.

'But who is that?' I asked.

It is YOU, just YOU and only YOU!

'Does that feel a little lonely?'

said the shadow.

'NO' said I...

It feels truly

MAGNIFICENT!

This is what I want for you.

This is what I want to teach you.

This is who you can be.

How to Change: The Science of getting where you want to be.

Do you ever consider analytics?

Did you know that one of Google's top searches has been around the theme of change and new opportunities?

Well I'm telling you...

Something Big is Happening!

Right here.

Right now.

... and there's never been a better time to recreate yourself.

This is what Google says:

“As the world reemerged and entered a new era, people searched for new possibilities more than ever before,” explains Google.

So what are we looking at here?

Reading between the...

How to Have Your Best Year Yet!

Recovery Position

“In 2022, as the world reemerged and entered a new era, people searched for new possibilities more than ever before,” explains Google.

If you were to look for a common theme amongst the trending searches on Google, Youtube or the likes, top hits would fall into the category of looking for new opportunities, new skill-sets. 

'How to' Videos have never been more popular and are now leading the trend.

Many looking for new opportunities are doing so as they have just experience their toughest years yet of restriction, stifling isolation and discontent.

When liberty is taken from us, we come to realise the power of turning towards what we do have, with joy, rather than focusing on what we don’t have or are missing out on.

And what we do have is choice and opportunity.

Choice to do as we please and not have to endure imposed 'direction'.

People are now looking to find a new direction. 

Swimming against the Tide

For many it has felt like swimming against the tide b...

Happy International Women's Day!

To all the amazing women in my life,

I say to you on repeat ...

Keep Going!!

You haven't come this far, sacrificed this much, to throw in the towel and believe this…

that something amazing that hasn't happened yet;

It's coming.

There's no way, having worked this hard, you won't be rewarded.

When you elevate your mindset like this, it creates a sense of resilience

 
and momentum

and resolve.

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Small Step, Big Difference!

The last time I posted here, I was so struck by this quote that I’d seen posted by Vicky Etherington, The Website Mentor, that I did exactly what she suggested and knuckled down to business:

The fact is, we think we’re masters of multi-tasking, but it’s simply not possible.

When we constantly switch from task to task, our productivity drops away and we struggle to get any meaningful work done.

Peter Drucker said: “Efficiency is doing the thing right. Effectiveness is doing the right thing.”

I see so many well-crafted posts that make a brief impression but what I wanted to know is …

What really moves the needle and creates a valuable outcome?

And I found it right here … I blocked out all distraction, put my head down and have just completed one of Vicky’s invaluable courses.

All credit to Vicky’s no frills mentoring, I’ve finally moved from

What I think I want my business to be,
to
My business is exactly where I want it to be!!

Small Steps, Big Diff...

Linda's 3-minute Survival Kit

My friend and associate Dr Linda has become increasingly concerned that many are struggling and are lacking the knowledge and understanding needed to pull on the 'emergency break' so to speak, when life gets rather too much to handle, so this week I've decided to use the video feature in my blog.

The video is self explanatory. Linda delivery is deliberately slow and thought provoking. You will learn much from her wisdom and generosity of spirit.

The notion that Linda explains, in this video, is that while we all prepare ourselves for practical emergencies, for emotional or 'wellbeing' emergencies we are far from prepared ...

We may have our emergency wipes for minor bumps and scrapes.

We have cards to hand for that emergency plumber or breakdown company that we might need to call, should the need arise.

Yet often, in our busy lives, we are encountering wellbeing emergencies that we are wholly unprepared for.

So what can we do?

Watch the video and l...

The Journey Back to Full Recovery

Having taken a holistic look at the many dimensions of Health and Wellness, we have come to realise the connectivity between these aspects and how they present themselves in reality. How they affect our vitality.

After a 'down' time, (see my earlier blog, You Are Not Alone), it is important not to wallow in any low mood you may be experiencing; otherwise the 'brain-fog' and sluggishness may quickly come to roost!

With New Beginnings comes fresh resolve.

We have talked about the importance of allowing ourselves to 'feel the feels', to love, to fear, to dread, to grieve; to experience the highs and lows and then to return to our senses (oneself), and allow ourselves to simply be human ...

 Be Your Own Best Bet!

It's time to be your own best bet, from this point forward. Learn to rely on yourself. You have everything you need within you.

Learn to nurture and appreciate 'me time'. To look after yourself as number one, as only then can you ensure y...

Never a Truer Word

This lone figure is Andrew (Vern) Stokes, Senior Soldier, Garrison Sergeant Major London, Defence Ceremonial Expert. In his post on social media, following Her Majesty's funeral, he said:

"I might look alone in this first photo, I wasn’t, there were many hands on my shoulder."

"I have never been part of a more magical team, supported by the most amazing people; at work by the superb Military and Civil Service planning team in Horse Guards and the London Military Operations Centre and a whole raft of hugely professional and impressive organisations, friends and colleagues."

Let us remember ...

We are a people of hope and love for one another

It has been an incredible 11 days, the outcome of which was the dignified last journey of Her Majesty by her Armed Forces; the organisation of which was meticulous.

A superb endeavour.

In my earlier post, when I wrote about New Beginnings, I did not imagine, for one moment, that we were about to lose our dearest Queen El...